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I do not want to go into the details but recently I walked in on my husband and daughter having sex. I have not spoken with either of them since this happened and I do not know what to do. My daughter clearly, from what I saw and heard, was enjoying herself and was not being coerced. She is 32 and is an adult and was making a terrible choice. The though of this has sent me into a panic attack almost every day this week and I have vomitted multiple times. I do not know what to do. I feel terrible writing off two members of my family but this cannot be forgiven, or at least I don’t think it can. What on earth do I do?
Yes, my husband is her biological father. This makes it much worse.
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December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
Is your husband her father or stepfather? You need to talk to a counselor right away. This is too much of a problem to keep inside. Please get some help right away.
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
Damn you all might need to seek counseling .You all are gonna have to talk about this eventually so might as well deal with it now.Especially before Christmas.Is this her father…GOSH
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
SEEK COUNSELING! yOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH A HORRIBLE ORDEAL GET HELP FROM MINISTER, PASTOR, PRIEST, WHATEVER TOO HELP YOU MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION. And when the time comes confront these two about their disgusting relationship and leave.
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
is your husband her real father?
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
Uh, what the hell advice do you need????? YOU BREAK OFF CONTACT WITH BOTH OF THEM!!!!!!
It’s immoral in a religious sense, it’s incest legally. She’s just over 18, so he can’t be arrested. THEY ARE BOTH SCUM!!!!!
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
what else is there to do? join in.
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
that’s tough. you should pray for guidance. your husband really shouldn’t have participated. He is really in the wrong because your daughter will alwyas be a girl with him on a psychological level. They both need some help. She probably feels very bad, guilty maybe suicidal.
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
The right thing to do is get away from there and never look back……….
On the other hand you could call the Jerry Springer show and see if you all could be on TV…..
Do you by chance live in a trailer park ?
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
You need to confront your husband on it and seek spiritual counseling. What he did is against the law and will have long term repercussions spiritually, physically and psychologically. I would even file a police report (You witnessed a crime called incest). I know divorce is not the ‘Christian’ thing to do but you have to carefully consider all options. Me personally, I would file a police report, confront them on it and go to counseling.
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
is this man her dad or your new husband? only advice i can give is your daughter is a sick woman who either has deep seeded issues with you or she has severe daddy issues. either way, sounds like at this time, it’s a lost cause. i’d get rid of both. you can’t force her to go get help and if she obviously liked it, then she isn’t going to get help. go talk to someone who will help you, not them!
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
Be the other slice of bread in the sandwich.
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
Both your husband and daughter need professional help. That’s incest. Your husband and daugter disrespected you. Your husband cheated on you, there fore in
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
You are doing the right thing in not having anything to do with either of them for the time being. I can not say how I would feel or what I would do but I would be furious to say the least. I am not well versed in the bible but I can say that what they did is absolutely wrong. As your husband (I am assuming not her father) he is still a parental figure whether she is 32 or 2. In a sense this is incest and betrayal to you, your family, and the sanctity of marriage. Your daughter violated one of the biggest laws, honor thy mother and thy father. Your husband does not deserve to have you in his life any longer. There is too much deception and unanswered questions. If you stay and allow him to have the benefits of your virtue, body, or home you are allowing him to treat you like a doormat. You can forgive him without living with him. Your daughter has a lot of repenting to do not only to herself, but to you and god. As you know, god was watching. Send her a Christmas card and spend the holidays with somebody else and that doesn’t mean your husband. Let your daughter change her life and her choice of men before she can come back to your home. Children make mistakes and no matter how bad or big we still love them and we are still their parents. We still have to raise them. Just because they are 32 doesn’t mean that our jobs are done. For the time being express your parental skills with tough love. Refuse to be around her in her current life until she makes changes. Eventually she will see the error of her ways and come back around if that is what you want.
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
Keep the daughter and toss the husband.
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
You need to get counseling immediately. You have just witnessed an act of complete betrayal on the worst scale. This is terrible and I am sorry for you. Have they no moral values? Please get help for your self. As for the two concerned, may they rot in the depths of Hell. God Bless and Good luck.
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
if your husband is also the father thats one thing if not then thats another either way it’s got to be hard for you i’m sure. the husband can go but the daughter might need forgiveness and in time you get past it. time heals all wounds to a certain degree.
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
you have to forgive her
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
Sorry, but you have some really sick pups in your household! If this is a true story, please tell me that he is her step dad and not her biological father!
For me, this would be an automatic divorce for sure(especially if he’s her REAL father.) with no chance of reconciliation. Even if she is past the age of consent, she is still my child and my baby. But him? He is her father and an authority figure to her and he violated her and me, his wife in doing this. WTH is wrong with him? I’d have to pray hard that I didn’t snap and shoot the man!
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
From a Christian stand point you have to forgive them for your own good. And you have every right for a divorce. I have to assume that your husband is her step-dad.
What they did was just flat out wrong even form the worlds point of view. If I were you I would set them down and have them explain just what they were thinking at the time. Why they would stab you in the back like that. What did you ever do to be treated so disrespectfully. Was this just a one time thing or has this been going on for a while.
Like I said you have to forgive but, a scar like this will last the rest of your life so, you won’t be able to forget. The best you could do is get over it or move on without them in your life or both.
I don’t mean to be offensive here but, some how you have to share some of the blame. If your daughter was raised different this could have never happened. If you were doing your own home work your husband wouldn’t haved looked out side of your marriage to get his needs met. It’s just something to think about before you start throwing stones at them.
December 18th, 2009 at 7:55 am
shes probably sleeping with her brother to!!! your son….dont ever forgive them…move far far away..this obviously has been going on since she was young…go see a cousoler