im 19, and a havent really had a gf yet. ive heard about times when some girl might like me and there have been times that ive had chances to talk to some cute girls, but i was younger, dumb and didnt realize it at the time, or i w8ed too late and blew it. im in community college now and its hard to meet girls up there, cuz once class is over most ppl go home or to work. most of my friends are having sex and im not. they talk about girls they’ve been with and stuff and im jealous. for lack of a better word im horny. is part of God’s plan for me too not have a girlfriend yet. i know im pose to stay pure, until marriage but its hard and i get pretty lonely at times. i mean i try to live as holy as i can. could it be that becuz i dont really hang out with the right friends that i am being punished. i sometimes swear alot but i always beg God for forgiveness. would it be wrong to pray to God for a girlfriend. whats the deal?
its not that im some type of "pussy" or loser. i know im attractive, and have been told that by females. i would ask a girl out if i got the chance, in fact i have several times; the plans jus always seem to fall through. i jus feel like im being punished. or maybe God knows that if i date i will have sex, (cuz i really want to) so he’s preventing me too date right now.
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July 10th, 2010 at 8:41 am
he has a plan for you…you just have to be patient and wait
for him to put you in a place where you are most effective
in this life. for some people thats marriage for others its
being single(maybe as a preacher).
we may not like his plan, but its for the best.
i didn’t date until i was 20…you have plenty of time
to find a girl friend.
July 10th, 2010 at 8:41 am
Actually Paul in the New Testament taught that it is better to remain unmarried because of the many troubles that await those who choose to marry.
Boy was he right on that score
July 10th, 2010 at 8:41 am
Isn’t God having a plan for you and God giving you free will sort of contradictory?
July 10th, 2010 at 8:41 am
Pray that God gives you the courage to ask a girl out. Be confident, stand up straight, have an altoid, and get some!!
July 10th, 2010 at 8:41 am
Nah dude, it’s nothing like that.
you just gotta get yourself out there.
Just start walking up to women in Blockbuster and talk to them about whatever movie they are looking at. Get your phonebook up in your blackberry and then just start calling chicks randomly from it.
Eventually you’ll catch one on a lonely night and you’re golden.
And if it’s young ones like 19yrs old and stuff, take em to a club. They get easy after that.
July 10th, 2010 at 8:41 am
follow God. read the bible. know what the Christian man should do. sex before marriage is out. stick to it. pray to God for the right partner. dating without a relationship just as friends without sex is alright. but for serious relationship you must have a leading from the Lord. dont worry. God knows what He is doing. i have been a christian for more than 40 years. i am now 65. God bless.
July 10th, 2010 at 8:41 am
I think it’s a bit more general than that.
July 10th, 2010 at 8:41 am
Honestly, it doesn’t sound like you want a girlfriend, but just to get laid. If you want a RELATIONSHIP, that’s what you ask for…but I seriously doubt God will help you with a booty call. If you think a relationship will make you happy, what you’re truly seeking is happiness. Ask for happiness, just don’t expect God to give you a person. You might not be seeing the forest for the trees.
July 10th, 2010 at 8:41 am
The Bible says that we are to seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and we will be given the desires of our hearts. (Mt 6:33)
Hopefully this can be some help to you:
http://www.desiringgod.org/ResourceLibrary/MediaPlayer/2162/Audio/
July 10th, 2010 at 8:41 am
There’s a particular verse in the bible I base my life on, "seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all things will be added to you". It has been my experience that if I seek God first, study His word, follow the direction of His spirit, all other facets of my life He takes care of. Perfectly. That is my best advice to you; get into His word, pray, and wait on the Lord. Everything done in His timing is much better than our own.
July 10th, 2010 at 8:41 am
It’s best you focus more on your studies and worry less about girls. Get yourself a career, after all, real women want someone to help provide for them and especially if they decide they want children. God has a plan for you. The last thing you want to do is mess it up by getting some girl pregnant or catching an STD. But, if you do get a girlfriend find someone with good morals like yourself. Stay away from those manipulative ones.
July 10th, 2010 at 8:41 am
Yes, God even cares about your relationship. Don’t fall into sin with having sex, this will really cause you some problems and open the door for demonic bondage. Stay pure, it will be less heartache. You should see if you can find some girls that are just friends. I know it is so difficult when you are young and looking for that someone special. Just believe that God knows who is going to compliment you. You need to get some more Christian like friends, otherwise you will fall flat on your face. Friends should help keep each other pure and encourage them to do so. God’s expects us to be obedient to His word and follow Him totally.