Comments on: Embarrassing question for males in regards to future wives…..Christians please give your own opinion.?

By: Chris

Chris — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

He is a sinner too, perhaps not physically committing that particular one, but he has no room to look down upon you for it.

Besides, Jesus said that anyone that looks upon another with lust who isn’t their wife, has already committed adultery in their heart. Everyone stands guilty before Jesus, and needs to believe that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross and rose again, to be forgiven.

When we believe this, Jesus forgives everything, past, present, and future.

By: Don H

Don H — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

I would consider it none of my business.

Love and blessings Don

By: Tay

Tay — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

It shouldn’t!! NO one is perfect, he shouldn’t love you because he thinks you are perfect.

By: Hitler

Hitler — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

marry a man who can accept it~! that’s simple~!

By: john r

john r — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

well being a Christian boy (not really boy im 20) i wouldnt care, it seems like a lot of kids these days are "doing it" these days, before marriage, so no i wouldnt think any different of you, the fact that you apologized and repented is what its all about cuz we all sin

By: Great Gazoo

Great Gazoo — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Hon…once you are over 18 virgins are few and far between even if they are Christians. I wouldn’t sweat it to much.

By: DeepDiver

DeepDiver — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

If you don’t say anything he wont know, most "virgins" couldn’t tell the difference, let dead dogs lie

By: Pastor Art

Pastor Art — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

If he is mature in the Lord and if you are honest with him and if you give him time to digest it, yes.

By: Hammy

Hammy — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

OH the joys of religion. You are a bad girl and no man can every love you now. Dirt I say, dirt.

Who gives a crap what you did. It is in your past. Move on and live your life like it is the only one you’ll ever get. Mainly because it is.

By: somethingtrinity

somethingtrinity — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

If he really loves God and knows that he is also a sinner, he will love you also. He does not need to forgive you, you have been forgiven by God and He will send you a wonderful man that will respect you from the beginning of your relationship. If he puts you down, he is not the one for you.

By: Klute

Klute — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Don’t worry about it. Life is too short to worry about that future.

By: Juan

Juan — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

if he really considers himself a christian, he should forgive you

"…And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us."

if you regret it, then why would you worry? we are humans and we’re allowed to make mistakes – we learn from them

By: [P]res[T]ON_X

[P]res[T]ON_X — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

If he can’t even swollow that, he shouldn’t be a christian anymore.

By: prophet of restitution

prophet of restitution — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Do’t get down on yourself. All of us have past things we are not proud of,and no it will not make him love you any less. I married my best friends sister that I had know since we were kids. She by this time had been with several men,and I still loved her with all my heart. We are divorced now,but remain great friends. I still love her,and always will. Don’t worry if he loves you it won’t be a problem.

By: Linda J

Linda J — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

I really don’t want to over-step my bounds here, but hon, you DON’T want to marry any man who will hold your past against you!
There are lots, and LOTS of men out there who are Christian and can love you just as you are. Besides, most of them have not so great pasts either.
No one should worry about your past. Now if you have a health concern that is a result of something you did in the past, then you do want to let your boyfriend know; and if he chooses to find someone else because of this reason, let him go and don’t feel bad about yourself.

By: Monti T

Monti T — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

First, it is impossible to keep the laws. No one but Jesus could do that. If you broke one you have broke them all. They are there to show you how much we need Jesus in our lives. Without his loving grace where would we be. If you have repented then be honest from the get go to him. Do not with hold this from your future spouse. It will cause you alot of problems if you do. This is another example of how you can get caught up in the wickedness of this world. You should pray daily, put on the full armor of God, and be shown approved. Live your life in righteousness for the glory of God.

By: david the other gamefreak

david the other gamefreak — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

No. I could care less if I married a non-virgin woman. If I love her I wouldn’t care if she’s a virgin. But unless he’s extremly religious I don’t think he would forgive you. Which is why I gave up on my religion for a less strict one.

By: misslolgirl

misslolgirl — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

You have made your peace with God…that’s all that matters- It was a mistake and it’s over…don’t walk around in shame and feeling unworthy, that will only attract predators.
The right person for you will accept you for who you are now…None of us is perfect

By: The Reverend Soleil

The Reverend Soleil — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

Like anything else, it depends on the guy.

A real man would realize that you don’t have to answer to him for anything you did before the two of you ever met.

And any guy who CAN’T figure that out, you need to kick to the curb without delay.

By: hosanna

hosanna — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

My dear: Please, NEVER live
your life under this cloud. I doubt there are many men that
want only a virgin to marry.
But if you find one, then just
tell him and let him decide.
If he loves you, it won’t matter
at all.
Also, never, ever think of
yourself as a sinner, or bad
person because you had sex
before marriage. Actually, it
is very rare to find a virgin
at the wedding ceremony.

By: Relentless

Relentless — Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000

A Christian man will understand that no one is perfect and we are all sinners but you will have to sit down and talk to him if you want a serious relationship. Don’t let him find out from someone else.

Been there only I’m the guy. I was a virgin till I got married and my wife wasn’t. Part of it wasn’t her fault as a child, and then later on she made a personal choice before she met me. She did tell me of her past relationships and regrets before we got married, so that scored her major points for honesty.

I’ve forgiven her but I’ll let you know it’s still in the back of my mind. It’s not something that you can just erase. I’ve tried. I don’t look down on her and don’t love her any less. I’m there to comfort her, support her, and to make her smile. I do trust her, we’ve been happily married 2 3/4 years. When people are young they can make mistakes but certain mistakes can effect future relationships and cause a lot of heartache.

Talk to him…be honest…he needs to know long before you get married.